And in his message he said:
"I like that you're not super skinny."
Okay. Let's break this down.
Obviously, he meant it as a compliment. He wasn't trying to call me a big fat fatty fat. He intended it as a positive thing. So I will not run straight to the Cheetos.
But you know...by the time a dude gets to his late twenties, shouldn't he know not to comment on a girl's body? Especially when pointing out that she's not, you know...a twig? Shouldn't a guy know that for most women, that would not be taken well? It crosses a line, right? RIGHT. So I feel like maybe he's super awkward, generally.
I talked to my Biff about it, and she said as a person who doesn't have my kind of body fixation, she wouldn't take it as an insult. Because she's not "super skinny". She's fit, she's thin, but she's not skin and bones. In her view, he probably meant that he's sick of the typical LA body type of invisible limbs and visible ribs. So she doesn't think I should take it to heart.
But you know...I just don't know. I feel like commenting on appearance in the second message, regardless of content, could be a potential red flag. Yellow flag? Like, if he's commenting on my curves straight away, maybe that's all he's looking at. MY EYES ARE UP HERE, BUDDY. AND THEY'RE BROWN.
I should just give up.